So, you’ve set up a house, you’re settled in your new job, and your partner has started his or her new job. You’ve both adjusted to all the changes. You’re ready to start your life as a married couple. But, what now? Your first year of marriage is critical for building a solid foundation for the future. It sets the tone for the long haul and lays the groundwork for success in your marriage.
Goals for First-Year Mr and Mrs
Marriages are made up of two people, two lives, two sets of goals and expectations, which is why it can be hard to achieve a single vision when you first start out—even more so when you throw kids into the mix. If you want to stay on the same page, it’s important to set some priorities for your first year of marriage, so you can both work together to achieve them. These goals can help you start out on the right foot:
- Give compliments to each other. When it comes to marriage, one of the most important goals for that first married year is to compliment each other every day. A compliment is something you say to someone that lets them know something good about themselves. This makes the other person feel good, and, as a result, it improves your relationship overall. You’ve probably heard it said that marriage is not easy and that it takes work. Of course, you have already put a lot of work into your relationship, and you can’t just stop there. Making compliments part of your relationship will help you make your partner feel good and help you have a closer bond.
- When you need to, don’t be afraid to argue. Arguing is one of the goals in that first married year. It is a healthy part of any relationship, and if you never argue, you are not going to have a healthy relationship. This is the result of two people who care about each other passionately about something. It is the way to solve problems and make the relationship stronger. It is also a way to feel passion and love for your spouse. It is the way we show our feelings, and it is important that we don’t go to bed angry.
- Talk about your marriage with your close friends. If you are like me, you have had lots of friends who are married, and one of the things that you always want to hear about is how it is to be married. For me, having people to talk about your marriage with is a great way to get some feedback about your relationship. It is also a great way to support your friend who is married.
- Remembering your Wedding vows – Have you ever looked back over your wedding day? You probably remember the ceremony, the speeches, and the fun times, but do you remember the vows? They might seem like a small detail in the grand scheme of things, but the words you said to one another are the most important things you will say to one another in your life. Print out your wedding vows, and look at them every day, so you can remember everything that led you to this point. This will help you to keep your focus on the future and keep your mind off the doubts. Why not make a habit of looking back over your vows and actually reading them out loud at least once a year.
- Plan for Year 2, together. You have set goals for the first year of your marriage. Now, you need to make a plan for your year two as a couple. A plan for year two can help you set goals for the next year of your relationship. You got married, you’re probably still on cloud nine, and you’re probably pretty excited about the road ahead. You have all kinds of hopes and expectations, and you’re not sure what to expect, but you know that you’ll be spending the next year or two with this person, so you may as well make it a good one.
Setting goals in your first married year can make or break a marriage. Establishing goals for your new marriage not only ensures its survival, but it also makes its success even more likely. No matter the situation, goals can help you and your spouse get your marriage back on track. Goals allow you to focus on the things that are important to you both and work toward those things together.